This has been on my mind a lot lately, mostly because my own children are picking up bad habits from the neighborhood children and it bothers me greatly. My children have been taught what is right, and acceptable and what is wrong, and unacceptable. We are not perfect people of course, but we do try to get things right and do our best at being good.
Because my boys have done such a great job of showing good judgement in the past, and because they behave so well even when I’m not around we have been giving them a little bit of freedom and permitting them to go outside and play in the front without us. We keep an eye out, and they have rules such as not doing anything they wouldn’t if we were there and staying where they can hear if we call for them. It has always gone well, except lately they are slipping.
The last three times I let them out to play I had to go and find them because they’d gone too far to hear us. Then once as I was rounding the corner to get them, I heard a word that I couldn’t believe escaped my child’s mouth! I’ve also noticed the two big boys becoming increasingly impatient with one another, and they are playing much more rough with other children.
I thought they were learning these behaviors from other children outside, but no, in reality they are learning them from television because I am not censoring their television as much as I should be. Yes, some of it is from other children, but really if I look hard at their television time I can see much of that behavior right there on the screen.
The easy solution is to take away TV time, and we have greatly tightened up the restrictions on what they can and can not watch, but is censoring them really the way to go? I mean will they not encounter these things in the real world as they get older? Do we not need to teach them how to ignore those influences and do what they know to be right, even when the wrong choice is easier? How can we teach them to make good choices if we don’t give them a chance to potentially make a wrong choice?
They are good boys, and I know that, they just need more guidance. I think for now we will keep them closer so we can help them to make those right choices. We will limit television even more, and remove some programs from their acceptable list, we will observe them more often when they are outside and think we aren’t around, and we will do lots and lots of explaining and teaching as to why something is wrong and why we ought not do it. We will also be using our Bible more often when explaining why something is wrong, this way they are learning a verse or two that will help them make the choice easier in the future.
So is it really the television, and other children influencing them, or are they just stretching their legs, getting ready for the day when they won’t have mommy and daddy to tell them what to do? Probably it’s a bit of both, so we’ll have to address it as both! Parenting is so not for wimps! 🙂